Having Wisdom Can Determine All... Week11

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Our speaker this week was very funny. But I felt like he didn't teach specifically on relationships, like what was supposed to be talked about. It was about wisdom. It was really beneficial what he did lecture on, just wasn't expected. It did irritate me though that a lot it felt like when he asked for discussion it wasn't much of a discussion. He had his opinion and when, say I, tried to process out loud he would shut down every thought. It was like he couldn't accept the fact that other people do have other opinions. I personally was just trying to figure it out, but he kept shoving his way of thinking down my throat. So besides discussions, he was great. 

Steve was talking about how kids have a certain gape where they want to spend as much time with their parents as possible. For some it's longer than others. During that time you could be the biggest influence in their life. It's your choice to be a good or bad one. The dad's role during this time is to be the "superhero". Thinking about it, if a kid does want to go with the dad to get grain for cows, really, the car ride isn't that great, getting the grain isn't that great, so why would the kid want to go with you? Clearly because you're there. They just want to spend that time with you. The mom's role is to be the best friend. Listening to their stories, secrets and give advice. The kid's brain is still pretty tiny and really, you're the wisest person in their world, so what you say makes sense. 

Now, I know I'm not a parent. However, I have been thinking about how Anna constantly asks for hugs, or to hangout. She'll even ask what I want to do in hopes that I'll say yes. What kind of 9 year old asks an 18 year old what they want to do? Being here it's also got me thinking, I prayed for the kid. I so badly wanted a little baby sister. If I got that little baby sister, why would I neglect her? I think her "sponge" age, or "gape" will be longer than other kids that perhaps go to school. Also, I'm her sister. That automatically makes me less authoritative, so she might be willing to keep me around longer. If, when I go home, say yes to everything (unless I really do need my time or have other plans), I might be able to make that much more of a difference. And if I'm able to make that difference, maybe I'll still be a small part in her teen years. Since it seems to be the normal for teens to rebel, but sometimes their relationships with their siblings are pretty great maybe she'd be willing to take my advice if she's not willing to go to Mom or Dad. I know when I get home I'm going to backslide some because I wont be in this constant shabam place all the time. But if I at least keep working on staying in tune, at least I wouldn't be an all bad person to go to. Really, all I'm trying to say is that if I start now, I might be able to maintain more of a friendship rather than a sister who wasn't there. 

This will be one of my favourite quotes now. "If you think you married the 'wrong' person, turn to God. He can make lemonade out of lemons. But work with God. You can't continue to think 'What would it have been like if I married the right person?'" 

I do really like this too. 

Single —> Special relationship —> Engagement —> Marriage 

• When you're single, hopefully you're not leading anyone on. 
• When you're in a "special relationship", also known as dating, everyone thinks it's acceptable to hold hands, kiss, maybe a bit of french, but a "mature Christian" would say that feeling up isn't okay. (I put " " over that because there are people *cough* me *couch* who would say it's not good (which I do think it's not good) but still end up doing it). It makes so much more sense though that yes, if you're holding hands, that may be okay. If you're kissing, that might be okay. But if you start to french and one, or both, are tempted to go further, they should draw the line there. Same goes for kissing, or holding hands. I think this sounds super extreme, but in reality, if you're tempted by one and just keep letting your emotions run over, one thing will lead to another and chances are you wont stop when it gets to the sex. Might take months, but it could be days. The best chances of it not happening is to draw the line when there are no chances of being tempted to go further 
• Same goes for engagement, because you're still not married. Yes, your hopes are to get married soon, but there is that chance of it being broken off. It sucks, but that's sometimes the reality.
• Marriage, go for it. No sin or shame in any of it at all. 

Thursday for class we did prophecy again. Keeley came to me and said that God was really proud of me. Which is kinda funny to hear... But that hit home. She said He's so proud how passionate I am. She was referring to what I discussed with her earlier. I'm doing something for one week which I've named project "Get Pissed." Sounds terrible, but it's just freaking out about how Satan has no power and he has to let go of any bonds he's hanging onto. So I've got pictures up and writing on myself reminding me. Any second I think of this I do a quick prayer. So I had this massive rant to Keeley Wednesday night about this. I was so mad, pure hatred. That's what she was referring to in this case...

To finish off, if anyone wants to pray I can say some prayer requests.
• That God's will and Kingdom will come to Malaysia and Holy Spirit will be with us every step, guiding us. 
• You can do project Get Pissed with me too. This is specifically towards a specific person that God will become so real they will just be blown away and that any bond Satan has over them will be completely broken. I believe the more joining into prayer the better result it will have. So any second you think of it, just pray.
• That our teams will have abounding energy in Malaysia and health and safety will be with us.
• Also, I've got a friend going on a missions trip to Europe for a month. If you can just pray for her that she'll have enough finances (by saying that, I mean pray 90% glorifying God, 10% for finances), to get there and throughout the trip. And that God will just be guiding her in what she experiences and does.

Also, while I'm away I will not be using my blog or Facebook. If you want to keep in contact, send me your email address to rachel.wegner@hotmail.com or message me on Facebook. I hope to send out a weekly update on the adventures. And look - if you do read my blog regularly, I do not know. If I do not receive a message asking for updates I will not send you one. If I get approximately 20 views a week and only half of such email addresses have come in, I'm sorry. I will not be checking Facebook as of April 7th, so send me it before then. 

God is good.
All the time.
All the time.
God is good.